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Where Are My Dates??

  • August 3, 2012 at 9:00 am

Dear Lasana,

I joined POF about 3 weeks ago. Since then about 70 girls have viewed my profile, only about 7 girls wrote, none turned into a date.  The girls I fall head over heals for don’t write  nor respond!

HELP!!

Outdoor Comforts

 

Dear Outdoor Comforts,

Thanks for reaching out. I can understand how frustrating it must feel to not get a bigger reaction from your profile.

In your email you wrote that 7 women did respond. Why did a date not result with any of these women? Did you respond back to them? I also read that 70 women viewed your profile. Did you respond to any of them? Did you email any other women on POF who you found interesting? Women appreciate it when a man contacts them first whether it’s online or otherwise.

I would also suggest you review your POF profile. Is your profile picture flattering? What are you saying on your profile that is attractive to women? Read my blog here to see if you have a “winning” online profile: http://www.loveandlifeblog.com/2011/04/22/5-tips-for-a-winning-online-dating-profile/

Finally, what type of relationship are you looking for? A woman to date? Hook Up with? Or serious relationship? E-Harmony recently released stats stating that 236 members get married everyday after being matched on their site.  Match.com also released stats stating 12 couples get engaged or married on their site everyday. So if you’re looking for a long-term or more seriously committed relationship, I would recommend you investing the money and trying one of these sites instead.

Wishing you the best in Love and Life,
Lasana

Follow-Up

Hiii, well since our last email I made several changes to my profile and images.  I put up 6 images in different attire: business casual, bathing suit, suit & tie, shirt off e.t.c.  I also made sure that I put neat borders around each image and effects like black and white to make the images more dramatic.
For my profile: instead of saying what i am, i demonstrated it…instead of saying “im witty, and clever, passionate and charming.”
I said “im the guy who when you ask for coffee will automatically tell you, “”only if you stir it with your finger so its sweet”"
I made sure it was clear what I wanted, to save time and not have useless coversations.
Since then my response rate has doubled, and I am getting much more opportunity to meet, and talk with the girls I like best.

Thanks,

Outdoor Comforts