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Summer Lovin’

  • May 28, 2013 at 12:38 pm

It’s officially summer! Time to break out your sunglasses, bathing suit and….your summer love! How can you do that when you couldn’t get a winter romance or even a spring fling? Well I’ve got five suggestions to get your summer sizzling…and it won’t just be because of the heat!

1. Unplug

As a technology addicted, Blackberry always in hand person, I totally understand how hard it is to separate yourself from your laptop, cell phone, MP3 player, etc. As much as these devices make our lives convenient, they have hindered our interpersonal relationships. We spend more time looking at the text our friend sent us than around us to discover what hottie might be checking us out! This summer, make it a point not to be distracted by these devices when out. Take time to be in the present moment and really enjoy the “scenery!”

2. Smile

Now that your technology is safely tucked away (it’s the #1 suggestion for a reason friends), notice everything great happening around you: the happy faces on a Ferris wheel, a child enjoying an ice cream cone, skateboarders doing stunts, and smile. When you smile, you look approachable. You become more attractive.  There’s a great quote, “Always remember to be happy because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile.”

3. Get Out

You’ll never meet Mr. or Mrs. Right in your house and there’s no need to. With the elevated heat comes less clothing so why not enjoy the view? Many cities offer great summer events which include concerts, outdoor movie screenings and festivals. Several of these events are even free so you can’t use lack of finances as an excuse. Google summer events in your city and see what you find. Then go out and explore!

4. Speak To Strangers

Ok, when you were five your mom probably told you not to speak to strangers which was good advice at the time. Now you’re old enough to know which strangers you should and should not talk to. The cutie by the bar with the drink in hand might be someone you should strike up a conversation with. How do you speak to a stranger? Use simple conversation starters or compliments such as, “Hello. Is it hot enough for you?” or “I really love your watch. Where did you get it?” Make sure the questions are open-ended (nothing that can be answered with a “yes” or “no”) and your compliments are genuine and G-rated (let’s keep it clean people.) Don’t use lines. Just say the things that you are naturally thinking anyway. After some small talk, find a way to close it, “I really enjoyed our conversation today. Maybe we can meet up again sometime soon. Are you on Facebook?” This is great, because most people are on Facebook and there is less pressure to give someone a name or email for Facebook than a phone number. However, if you’re really feeling the chemistry is there, then step it up and ask for the digits or offer yours.

5. Join an Online Dating Website

According to recent studies, 1 in 5 new relationships now begin on an online dating website. I personally know many friends who have met quality partners and even got married to someone they met from an online website. With such a high dating ratio, it’s no longer taboo to place your picture on a site to meet new people. It’s a great tool to pre-screen potential partners before you’ve even gone out on the first date. It will also give you the ability to go out on several dates, keeping your summer social calendar quite full.

Now that you’ve read these valuable tips, get off the computer and go enjoy your summer!

Photo: Lasana Smith

5 Ways To Get A Date This Month

  • July 11, 2011 at 12:16 pm

On the 1st of the month my friend sent me the Ultimate Summer Dating Challenge. It was ultimate alright. It was a challenge to ask and go on 10 dates in one month. While many would find this intimidating, the idea of meeting 10 different guys and going on 10 dates sounded fun. Then the mind-chattering excuses came: “You’re too busy,” “Maybe you should try it next month,” “It’s already 11 days in the month, how can you get 10 dates?” “Did you read that correctly, YOU have to ask a guy out on a date?” “How are you going to meet 10 guys to ask out on dates?”  With my birthday being exactly a month away from today, the thought of being another year older and another year single did not seem very thrilling. So in an attempt to create lifestyle balance, I pushed away my excuses and decided to take the plunge and see if within the next 20 days (or I may give myself the full 30 day period which ends on my birthday) I can go on 10 dates. If you’d like to take the challenge with me or just like to get more dates, here are 5 ways to do it:

  • Online Dating- This morning I did it, I took the plunge and decided to join Being inspired by my client who has been dating a guy she met on Match for several weeks after I created her profile, I purchased a 30 day subscription and created one for myself.  There are several great online dating websites, some are even free. For profile tips check out: 5 Tips For A Winning Online Dating Profile
  • Networking Mixers- I know you have received emails about these or have had a friend invite you to a few, but somehow you still end up on the couch at home watching your favorite shows on TV. Networking mixers are great places to meet like-minded people in particular industries or with similar interests as yourself, so DVR your favorite program and go to the networking mixer.
  • Meet-Up Groups- This website links individuals with groups of similar interests and hobbies. Comparable to networking mixers, it’s a great place to meet people who you share common interests.
  • Work- Where do you spend more time than at your job? While many people don’t advocate “fishing off the company pier,” I think it’s a great place to get to really know someone and see how they work under pressure as well as in a group environment. You have to be careful with this one though. Whether it works out great or it ends in disaster, there’s a major possibility one of the individuals will need to leave the company after the union happens. However many successful relationships began as office romances. Yours could be next.
  • Friends and Family- Friends and family members are a great resource in helping you find dates. Oftentimes, we just don’t let them know we’re seriously looking. Let them know you are open to dating and ask them if they know of anyone they think would be a good fit for you. Who knows you better than your friends and family?

These tips will assist you in finding people who are compatible for you to date. In the meantime, I’ve got some dates to go on myself….10 to be exact.

Are you up to joining me in the “Ultimate Summer Dating Challenge?” How do you find dates?

Photo: Flickr

5 Tips for a Winning Online Dating Profile

  • April 22, 2011 at 5:30 am

Last week when interviewed on the BLAKstar radio show, I was asked about my dating tips for 2011. These tips can be found in my blog, Summer Lovin’. This week I wanted to explore what seems to be the most challenging tip, joining an online dating website. What is it about joining a dating website that makes so many people cringe? According to recent studies, 1 in 5 new relationships now begin on an online dating website. I personally know many friends who have met quality partners and even got married to someone they met from an online website. Although it’s no longer taboo to place our picture on a site to meet new people, I believe what worries people the most about online dating is creating the profile. Many people don’t know where to begin. What type of pictures should be used? What should the profile say? How does one attract the right partner? What does one do to attract the right partner?

Here are 5 tips on how to create a winning online dating profile:

1.       Display Smiling Photos

Showcase photos in which you are smiling and/or doing a fun activity on your profile. These types of photos will make you appear more approachable, friendly, and fun. You should be alone in these pictures as this profile is about showcasing you. Also make sure to share at least 3-4 photos on your profile.

2.       Have a Fun Heading

Besides the photo, the heading is the next thing a person usually sees before opening your profile. It should be a fun statement that piques their interest. An eye catching heading could be a favorite saying, motto or phrase. Just make sure that it says something positive about you.

3.       Paint a Picture

Your profile says a lot about you. Therefore share your best attributes. But to really make your profile stand out from the thousands of others on the site, don’t just write them out. Paint a picture. For example, if you are a caring person, instead of simply writing that, share an example of how you volunteer at an animal shelter on Sundays or how you spent many years of your life as a caretaker. This will not only make you seem more real than just words on a profile, but will give the person reading it something to connect with.

4.       Create a Vision of Love

This is the most imaginative part of creating your dating profile. What is your love vision? What would your partner be like? What types of activities would you do together? How would he/she treat you? Craft a brief paragraph and describe this at the end of your profile so you can attract your ideal mate.

5.       Be Honest

The entire reason you are creating this online dating profile is to meet someone you are compatible with. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not. Being honest on your profile is the best way to attract someone who you may build a lifelong love connection with.

Although I have shared these 5 tips with you, I know there are still many of you who find the entire process of creating an online dating profile overwhelming or are simply too busy to create one. In fact, I recently gained a client who wanted to use my services to create her profile. If you are also interested in this service, e-mail me at The first 10 people who e-mail me will get an initial online dating profile setup for only $50 (a savings of $25).

Do you have any successful online dating stories? What suggestions do you have for people creating an online dating profile?

Photo: Ed Yourdon/ Flickr