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What Is Your SSB?

  • May 26, 2010 at 3:30 pm

Anyone who knows me knows I am a HUGE Sex and the City fan! I own the entire series, organize “SATC” ladies night viewing parties and am very excited about receiving my first pair of Manolo Blahniks. Even in writing this blog I like to think that I am the Yin to SATC main character Carrie Bradshaw’s Yang, as I am a fashionable African American woman who writes about her dating and relationships life in Los Angeles (although I am a very proud New York City native). Like millions of women, I am eagerly anticipating the release of Sex and the City 2 in movie theaters and plan to watch it in true SATC fashion…with my girls in New York City!

To prepare for this momentous occasion, I have been watching past episodes of the hit television series featuring Carrie’s on and off again long term relationship with furniture designer, Aidan Shaw as he has a prominent role in the upcoming film. For those of you not familiar with the series, Aidan was a kind and good-natured man who Carrie dated after the very emotionally unavailable and commitment phobic, “Mr. Big.” While dating Aidan, Carrie confessed to having an affair with Mr. Big which ended their relationship. A year later, Aidan and Carrie reunited, moved in together and got engaged. However once Aidan realized that Carrie was not ready to give him a marital commitment, he ended their relationship for good.

As I was watching one of the fourth season’s episodes of Carrie and Aidan’s romance, I became intrigued by a conversation Carrie was having with her girlfriends Charlotte, Miranda and Samantha. She had recently moved in with Aidan and was feeling claustrophobic from all of his personal items lying around. She also complained about no longer being able to indulge in SSB or her “secret single behavior” due to her lack of privacy. Having never lived with a man before, it made me think about what is my SSB? What habits do I indulge in when I’m alone that I feel would be embarrassing or distressing if my partner discovered them? Maybe the fact that I can literally spend an entire day in bed or that sometimes I like to have breakfast foods for dinner and dinner foods for breakfast? Maybe my beauty routine: facial masks, deep hair conditioning treatments and sleeping with a satin hair wrap?

I have always assumed that when you make the decision to live with someone, you see it all: the good, the bad and the ugly. I guess I just never gave much thought to the bad and the ugly!

What do you think is your SSB?

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